I used to hate being sick in my pre kid days. I still think it’s pretty horrible but now realise it can be so much worse. Currently, I am battling a nasty viral bug, I’m 8 months pregnant with 2 kids still waking in the night and a hubby currently working interstate. I feel like death warmed up, coughing up a lung and fearful that I’m about to trigger another fever and migraine… I have never been as sick as I have this pregnancy. It has been a rough 30 odd weeks and my body is struggling. I have never had a cascading effect of health issue or been deemed having a high risk pregnancy and I am really hating every minute of it. I look forward to seeing the back of the doctors, neurologists, midwives, obstetrician and specialist. I’m so sick and tired of being sick and tired.
For those who know me they will know that I am a pretty structured person. I run a tight ship, constantly on the ball and very detailed. Pre kid days I was in my element when I took on roles such as a Personal Assistant or Legal Secretary, but with motherhood not all skills are transferable… and I have been challenged with the life and expectations I had pre kids and the reality of what it is now.
So, what do you do when you’re a very particular and detailed person, sick, pregnant with kids and have no partner around? Well this is what I have learnt of late…
- Surrender – My natural instinct is to suck it up and push through but I am learning that surrendering and accepting the reality is so much more beneficial for all involved.
- Keep your fluids up! – As unappealing as eating and drinking is when you are sick, nauseated & in pain it is super important to keep fluids up. I had a 3 day fever 2 weeks ago and became extremely dehydrated. Vomiting certainly didn’t help matters. Not keep up fluids can cause so many additional problems.
- Rest – As nice as resting on the lounge watching telly is or laying in bed replying to emails is. That is not resting. Resting as in doing absolutely nothing and allowing your body and mind some actual time out to do absolutely nothing. It’s hard to do when you are not use to it, but it is so beneficial.
- Do as little as possible – Do the minimum humanly possible to get by until you are feeling better. Simple dinners, early nights, turning a blind eye to the playroom chaos. The washing and the cleaning can and will wait.
- Accept help – If someone offers to collect your kids from school and bring them home take them up on it. Don’t suck it up or be a superwoman a or martyr just gracefully accept and go back to resting.
- Ask for help – If your friends don’t offer, ask for help. Everyone wants to help if they can. Sometimes people are just super busy and haven’t noticed what’s going on. This doesn’t mean they don’t care or won’t help. Just ask and see.
- Have a game plan if things get worse – During my fever episode a few weeks ago hubby ended up driving me up to the local maternity hospital in the middle of the night (as per the midwife’s request). It’s a 45min-1hr drive up the freeway and I was in no state to drive myself. If hubby wasn’t home I would have had to call and wake friends and see if they could take the kids. An ambulance would have been called to get me up to the hospital. Having a back up plan and pre-warning friends or family (if you have any around) of your situation can give piece of mind. It also lets everyone be on the front foot too.
So there you have it 7 lessons learnt this week… it’s been a long week and I am looking forward to hubby coming home. The idea of sleeping the day away and resting a bit more before Bub arrives is very welcoming.
What do you when you are sick, any tips to add to my list?
“I’m so sick & tired or being sick and tired” – Fannie Lou Hamer