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5 Reasons Why I am not #RockingMotherhood

I recently got nominated to participate in the #RockingMotherhood blog series by an amazing, down to earth and ridiculously amusing Daddy Blogger @Daddypoppins who is so very kind and trying to help me dive into the into the vast blogging world I so long to be in.

After reading his response to why he is #RockingMotherhood, it highlighted 3 things:

  1. He is amazing and is certainly #RockingMotherhood
  2. He is a very entertaining blogger
  3. I am so #UnrockingMotherhood

I do remember a time when I did, a time when I was in my element, when our life had a rhythm, when everything flowed with ease… they we some of the best days of my life. But the last couple of years have been hard, challenging beyond words and have left me with a very broken spirit. It has, over time, taken me from #RockingMotherhood to #UnrockingMotherhood.

I can’t give you 10 reasons why I rock motherhood, but I’ll give you 5 reasons why I don’t. 10 reasons would just be too long and too depressing!

  • I lost our rhythm – Our family rely on me to keep everything flowing and when I am on my game we are unstoppable, but when I am not our family unit crumbles. The universe has knocked me 1000 times over in the last year or two and even with all the inspiring quotes, people and books around I struggle to get myself back on my A game and stay there consistently.
  • I don’t meet my own expectations – I am an idealist with rose coloured glasses. I am also a Pisces (highly emotional and a constant day dreamer)… oh and a perfectionist… my expectations of myself can only be described as “so ridiculously high and then some”
  • I’m not a very good role model – Lead by example, practice what you preach… There was a time I did this really well, but now… it is a different story. The big game changer, I stopped looking after myself. I live on coffee, always forget to eat, suck it up and push through things instead of slowing down and letting myself have time to recover… the list goes on. It’s not a positive list and I would hate to see any of my loved ones do the same thing to themselves. Heaven forbid if my son or daughter followed my current footsteps.
  • Guilt – Oh a mother’s guilt… I let it eat away at me. Here is one example: Currently, I am dealing with severe whiplash. Torn neck muscles, reoccurring muscle spasms, headaches, twisted ribcage, weakness in my hands and arms… (Australia Day water-skiing accident) The frustration of not being able to do things I would normally do each day for my kids is frustrating beyond words and as a result equals mother’s guilt ten fold.
  • I lost my village and as a result I lost myself – They say it takes a village to raise a child. I also believe that village raises a mother. Over the past couple of years, I’ve lost some pretty key players in my life. Some left because it was their time others because they chose to. I literally lost my entire village in the last two years. That soul crushing moment broke me and I am yet to fully bounce back.

Today is a rough day for me and most probably not the day to be participating in #RockingMotherhood blog series. But if I don’t do it now I wont do it and as a result I will be stuck in this rut day dreaming about having my own blog. So here is my response @DaddyPoppins. I appreciate the lovely gesture of you nominating me in order to get me to flick the switch. Thank you.

So there you have it 5 reasons why I am #UnrockingMotherhood.


Now to keep the blog series going I need to nominate some beautiful mothers that I think are #RockingMotherhood.

I nominate @Mama_At_Heart@ourrachblogs@BurnettKerry, Melissa from @thriftyfamilyt & @Mr_Kitney (yes you read right Martyn! I nominate you to be in the  honorary #RockingMotherhood club with @DaddyPoppins!)

@Lycrawidow I would have nominated you  but I know you have already been nominated and have responded with a beautiful written explanation of why you are #RockingMotherhood.


  1. Thank the blogger that tagged you and link to their blog.
  2. List 10 things you believe make you a good mother (this is just a guideline. It can be more or less than 10).
  3. Tag 3 – 5 bloggers to join in the #RockingMotherhood Tag.
  4. Grab the #RockingMotherhood badge and add it to your post or sidebar.


8 thoughts on “5 Reasons Why I am not #RockingMotherhood

  1. lycrawidow says:

    OH lovely. If this tells us anything It’s that you ARE rocking it. The very fact that you are able to recognise where you feel you’re not doing so well, and that you worry about it shows that you are a fantastic mother. Whiplash is debilitating and we headaches and weaknes that come with it can make you feel so overwhelmed.

    As for loosing your village. Been there. Many times. As a military wife we uproot and move on every 2 years (at least) it truly does take a village, and it can be hard to rebuild one, but you will find a new tribe.

    Please be kind to yourself.


  2. Natalie Wallace says:

    Oh babe what an inspiration you are. Truly authentic, vulnerable and courageous piece. Thank you for sharing it really helps me see you. Please be in my tribe!!
    Sending love for healing on the whiplash and was just saying the other night to myself how I adore your family and wish we could hang out more. Lets talk soon. I would love to offer my feedback in person and share all things motherhood, in fact woman hood xx

  3. blogofdadjames says:

    Some tough stuff to deal with in those five reasons. But I bet if you take a step back and look around, you’ll see a thousand ways in which you are rocking it! You are a wonderful person and I’m sure those around you would very much agree.

  4. Jo - Pickle & Poppet says:

    It sounds like things have been really tough on you in the last couple of years but from reading this you are definitely rocking motherhood. #ThatFridayLinky

  5. diynige says:

    No doubt you Are rocking motherhood fab tag I always feel I don’t meet my expectations it’s a tough one keep going Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

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